"Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful." (1 Corinthians 4:2)
If you had an open yard, and you put up a fence, would you feel guilty?
If your hairstylist put foil on the parts of your hair you don't want colored, would you feel the need to make excuses for those unchanged hairs?
Of course you wouldn't!
Why not? Fences and hair foil are about protection, that's why not.
Why the guilt, then, when you use one of God's greatest protection tools- the word "no"?
It's not a dirty word, it's actually a gift.
When you say no, you are freeing yourself up for God's agenda instead of your own or someone else's.
Someone makes a request of your time (Would you like to volunteer for the Monster Ministry project?) or your money (Will you support the American Hangnail Society today?) or whatever. To avoid appearing selfish or stingy, you say yes when you should say no.
What's wrong with that?
You create stress for yourself, and worst of all, you embezzle time and resources God earmarked for something else.
Everyday, He entrusts you with whatever you have. You are His steward.
Everyday, someone or something will ask you to expend those whatevers. I encourage you not to be too quick to say yes without considering what Your Father planned for what's being requested.
At times, yes will be the right answer.
When you must say no, guilt is not appropriate. Like hair foil and fences, saying no protects what should not be touched. It's part of being a faithful steward.
"No"---it's ok to say it.